Many men lament that upon having children, he loses his wife.
Without doubt, children are demanding and the effort to care for them, exhausting. The love of children is usually unconditional – and many women move children up in priority, placing their husband’s to a less important place. Relationship tip: MEN NOTICE AND THEY DON’T LIKE IT!
This feeling is Biblical. Children are from your body, but your husband and yourself become one body.
Genesis 2:24 “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” (NIV)
In the story of Hannah, at this point, childless; is asked innocently by her husband if she does not value him more than if she had 10 sons. Here is that passage:
1 Samuel 1:6-8 “Peninnah, her rival, would torment and humiliate her, because the Lord had kept her [Hannah] childless. This went on year after year; whenever they went to the house of the Lord, Peninnah would upset Hannah so much that she would cry and refuse to eat anything. Her husband Elkanah would ask her, “Hannah, why are you crying? Why won’t you eat? Why are you always so sad? Don’t I mean more to you than ten sons?”
Ladies, if you are not careful, and deliberate about it, your children could easily become substitutes for the love deposits you used to give to your husband, leaving him with an empty void where you used to fill. Do not create weakness so that he is easily tempted to fill that void elsewhere.
Keep it HOT!